There is a lot of bad wedding advice floating around out there, but mixed in with all of that are a few pearls of wisdom. Much of the advice has been passed down from generation to generation, and has stood the test of time. This is the best wedding advice you will ever get.
How many brides have been heard to say, “It is my day, so I should get what I want!” – which usually means getting their way at the expense of the feelings of someone else. Then there are the legions of brides who are so obsessed with obtaining wedding perfection that they cannot even enjoy the impeccable event that they have so painstakingly planned. These poor misguided brides are missing the point of a wedding, which is that it is a celebration of the start of a marriage, not the end-all, be-all day in their lives.
The best-ever wedding advice is that a wedding is for a day, but a marriage is for a lifetime. Simple words of wisdom, but they make an excellent point. As much as every bride wants all of the details of her wedding to be beautiful (and rightly so!), the spirit of the event should be one of joyous celebration and inclusion. Better to have a less-than-perfect reception with a lot of heart than a picture perfect event which has come at the expense of the bride making everyone around her absolutely miserable for a year! What is more important – that your bridesmaids love their dresses and bridesmaid jewelry, or that you are able to mold them into your idea of the ideal attendants without considering their feelings. If you want your bridesmaids to remain your friends after the wedding, you already know the answer to this question!
It is also important to keep the future marriage in mind while working on the wedding plans. Sad to say, there have been more than a few grooms scared off by the insanely controlling “bridezilla” behavior that their fiancees showed during the wedding planning process. If you find yourself bossing your groom around, ignoring him so you can work on the wedding, or telling him that his opinions about the wedding do not count, you may be missing the point of the whole thing! It is natural for a bride to devote a lot of time to planning her wedding (after all, it takes time to find your dream wedding gown or the most unique bridesmaid jewelry), but it should not come at the expense of her relationship with the groom. Be sure to plan regular date nights with him, so he knows he is still important to you!
Another key point about a wedding being for a day, but a marriage lasting for a lifetime is directed towards those brides who are so swept up in the idea of having a wedding that they forget to consider what comes after it. Be wary of getting so caught up in the thrill of being a bride that you overlook warning signs that the relationship might not be the best one for you long term. Once the thrill of the wedding is past, you will be living with your groom day in and day out, so just make sure that he is the one with whom you truly want to build a life. Then you can be confident that your marriage will bring you even more joy than your beautiful wedding, and that is a truly wonderful thing.